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Does proximity really matter?

Humans that we are it is in our blood and nature to share our thoughts and feelings with someone or some people we are close to. (here I don’t mean just physically close)…..Who can keep things in a closet especially when you are extremely happy, achieved something,something exciting happening in your life, unpleasant things, when life’s ruthless, times when nothing seems to be going right…Well these are so routine things! Apart from this there could be things you would want to talk about probably….If you have slapped a guy, back answered or insulted your boss, asked a guy/girl out, had a sad date,  your jaw dropped when you saw a handsome guy and then you dropped when he spoke something, etc….

But here is something I have been doing since probably my high school. Well I was a complete tomboy in school, was an athlete and was big time into sports, so my core attention would be sports, extra curricular activities and yes studies also….Fortunately I had brains enough not to mug up things, could fare well in exams even if I studied the last moment which was anyways the case….Because of all these things I dint have much time for boys at that point in time…all my friends would be like either hitting on boys or being hit on……and then they would come to me with their heartbreak stories, or how to enhance their relationship, or how to break up etc….Well I was and I am very good at solving problems or rather giving them solutions which can be implemented…..

That was high school and thus somehow I became a person who people rely blindly on and come with all of their issues…..Now this is something that was a little weird for me to resolve and I am yet to come up with a solution for one of my very good friends. May sound very silly and trivial but thus it is…..My friend loves chatting on the net and she religiously does that every single day….One fine day she happen to chat with a stranger, a guy she had never met nor knew or heard from before….She started chatting as just another thing and now before she could realize, she kinda has got attached to him. Now here the issue is that she has never met the guy before, but yes has spoken to him…..He lives abroad and she in India…According to her he seems to be a decent guy but then she does n’t know where it is leading her to….Ya the most simple solution the obvious thing would be she shouldn’t have entertained him in the first place. Now that we cannot undo things, what she feels is she may fall in love with that guy. So in the first instance I told her, stop talking to that guy. How does it matter when you know you are not going to meet him in the near future…..According to her even if she stops talking to him, she says she has started missing him and is getting attached to him with every passing day…Now to add to her misery, she doesnt know if the guy feels the same way as she does and is absolutely clueless as to what has he on his mind for her, apart from the fact that he finds her intelligent,  sweet, geniun and caring.

Well I am still to figure out as to how to get her out of this situation, but then I was wondering, many a times we feel or believe that we can relate to a person only if the person is in physical proximity….But then, I also know of my friends and acquaintances who have fallen in love through social networking sites and today are happily married….So my dilemma here is as to what to advice her, to get over it and move on in life or to go with the flow till the guy expresses whats on his mind!


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oNe lIFe tO lIVe!

” I wish for a wish,

sometimes its so hard to find, that perfect line,

If I had wings, I would fly and come to you,

If   I were a cuckoo, I would sing a melody for you,

If I were a peacock, I would dance in the rain”

Well well well this is no romantic post…..Just that the little poet in me came out…..It was just the other day that one of my colleagues asked me, hey if you were not a public relations’ professional what would you be? And I told him 4-5 different things that I wanted to do…Or rather, let me put it across this way…. I wanted to pursue different careers and all of them seriously thought about and magnanimous in their own way…..

I wanted to join the army and gave my entrance for SSC (Short service commission) got through, but then due to emotional blackmail from home had to give it up!

After that I decided I wanted to be a journalist, broadcast and be  investigative or crime reporter…..But then things dint materialize..

Then I thought chatter box that I am, I should try an RJ’s job….Went for audition, got shortlisted, but had to sign a contract for 2 years which I couldn’t do at that point of time as I was in my second year degree college and on vacations would go home….

All of this was when I was graduating and had to decide my career move very meticulously. Well people may think that I must be confused…No I was not at all confused nor am I confused now. Well its just that I wanted to have different careers at the same time….. If given a chance even now I would love to pursue all of the above mentioned careers.

In fact many of us fall in 3 categories;

  1. I chose this career as it is the most chased and aspired in the market
  2. I happen to be in this field just by chance
  3. I chose this career because it pays me well

There could be hundred other reason as to why people choose to do what they are doing, but then most of us feel that we would have been better off or rather performed better if we were doing the things which we were passionate about. It could be dancing, sports, singing acting, modeling, making handicrafts or anything…It also has to with the societal norms, or parents to a great extent  who push us to do the set agenda stuff….It has to be the mainstream things…If the kid is doing what is not regular  education stuff and wants to pursue something different, parents gt paranoid and assume that their kid is good for nothing. Well I guess our generation at least will be different because of the kind of exposure and mentality that we have.

Only if we had an option that we could pursue various careers for a period of time , this world would have been a different place to live….But we have just one life and can achieve only a few things!


Posted by on May 6, 2009 in career, education, friends, life, parents


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It is just…… a lITTLe cRUSh!


Yet another crush! Yeah its an ongoing process, guess in everybody’s life…M not the only exception here!

Let me go back down my memory lane exactly 10 years ago, when I had my first ever crush…..This is what I would term as a ‘SIN’ of my first ever entry into the world of  temptations and covetousness………My first crush apparently happened to be a priest, who was of course very young and good looking and was ordained (when a brother becomes a priest) just a year ago….Whenever I attended the mass, I would just keep staring at him instead of paying attention to the homily(a small sermon) and praying….Whenever I would speak to him, with every sentence he would say ‘my child’ and I would be like please no child…..But then I out grew it once I passed my 10th grade…….

My next crush was this sweet guy who happen to be my classmate’s bother….but of course that was very short lived…

Well after this for a long time ( 1 yr) I never had a crush on anyone…I know its strange!….But then I started working for a BPO and yes how could I not expose myself to crushes………Our trainee….Oh My God! He was steaming HOT…..And I just had a mighty crush on him…….But then it again dint last for long….. 3 months and all the steam just vaporized……..After that within 2 weeks I had another crush….This time it was my manager……….He was not at all hot, nor was he great looking, but he was so cute, adorable and of course very sweet guy…….The first time I ever interacted with him, I just was swept off my feet…..And then one fine day when I was giving this gyan to my very good friend on not to waste food & how so many people don’t even get 2 square meal a day and stuff……My manager(who I had a crush on) just turns around and smiles at me! I stood still and started blushing not knowing what to say and I just ran away from there…….

After this I kept having small crushes every now and then and it just fizzled out……..

But of course since its an ongoing process at least till the time I am committed(may be even after that), yet another crush bug bit me! This time, unlike he others, I just did not like this guy at the first instance……He had this huge attitude and would just not talk…I thought he was such a snob, arrogant, and wired guy! And then since he too is in the same industry as I am in, we kept bumping into each other….this lead to meeting more often, talking more often and then before even we could become good friends, I realized that I again had a mighty crush on this guy……I mean after a long time I had this huge crush on someone and someone who I initially hated!

Well I am sure many of us go through this phase, and I wonder where did this concept of crush come from??????


Posted by on December 15, 2008 in BPO, emotions, friends, good looks, priest, sin


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