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The Day that never comes!

Well this morning my mamma says, ” Tomorrow you are not going to office”. I am like, why mamma? Tomorrow is the Ayodhya verdict day and it is not at all safe for you to travel. I was like taken aback because my mamma is generally not like that. But then I was wondering, an issue which started in 1992, almost 18 years ago even now it sends shivers down our spines, fearing what will the verdict result into?

What I fail to understand is, everyone of us want peace and bliss, we understand and have already faced the repercussions of the Bombay riots, the Godhra riots and many more, then why do we succumb to situations which arise because someone wants to impose their thoughts and norms on us. Thousands of innocent lives pay the price of selfish and greedy politicians or people in the same league!

September 24, 2010, Friday would be like an important day in the Indian history, because there is much more to Ayodhya verdict than just the settlement of ‘who owns the dispute land’ issue. There are actually five title suits before the court that it has to decide on even though its ruling will also dispose off dozens of other petitions, for instance – right to worship or pray, access etc. It is to be seen whether the court can settle issues that are historical or if  I may say mythological, which goes back as long as 1885.

One of the oldest suits which started in 1885 when Mahant Raghubar Das filed a tittle suit in Faizabad court to build a chabutra on the outer courtyard of the disputes structure, but his suit was dismissed on the ground that the alleged demolition of  the original Ram temple in 1528 which had occurred over 350 years earlier, and so it was too late now to remedy the grievance.

It was revived in December 1949 when some people broke open the structure’s locks and installed a Ram idol and articles of worship and the administration ordered the status quo that led to two separate civil suits filed on January 16, 1950 by Hindu Mahasabha member late Gopal Singh Visharad and Paramhansa Ramchandra Das, keeper of the Digambar Akhada in Ayodhya.

I was walking down Church street with my friend when we were discussing whether it is going to be a bandh or not, and then she said, “You know what it doesn’t really matter whether there is a temple or a Mosque out there. What is most important is, peaceful existence and humanity which is above any religion!. I completely second that.

For all the greedy, selfish and senseless politicians out there- How much more will they make innocent people pay for their stupid motives. Looks like even after 64 years of independence, India is still in fetters!

 

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Togetherness….

Relationship, universally is one of the most beautiful part of our lives.  We are born because of one, we live in one, we grown in them and we make different relationships all through our lives.

Amongst the many relationships we make, relationship after marriage is the most beautiful, weird, surprising, crazy amazing and yes definitely full of discoveries. Even if you have known and dated the person for years before you get married, it still leads to discovering each other with every passing day.

Marriage definitely gave me jitters till the time I met that someone special who I could relate to, love and spend rest of my life with. Deciding and finalizing on the D-day, there are a few formalities that are required by the church for a couple to get married. Amongst the many others, there is something called the marriage preparation course which is compulsory. So out of compulsion, my fiance and I attended the course. But after attending the course, my views about that 3-day course plus marriage has completely changed, for better 🙂

Like I mentioned earlier, marriage is full of discoveries. Discovering about the likes and dislikes, passions, emotions, weakness and strength of each other. I remember the day I decided to get married to the love of my life and introduced him to someone who is like an elder brother to me, he said, “Guys remember one thing, marriage  is not about matching each other’s wavelength, but it is about being together and riding on each other’s wavelength. How true is that….

The first question I was asked in the session was, “how many times has he made you cry?” It was not to put my fiance to shame or embarrassment, but it was about what are young couples looking or expecting from their marriage. One of the faculty said this and I really loved it, ” Wedding is about the day you guys say ‘I Do’ to each other, but marriage is about saying “I DO” to each other for the rest of your lives”.  I honestly had jitters about marriage. Knowing myself really well, or at least believing that I know myself really well, I am a typical 21st century girl, who believes in being independent, has her opinions, takes decision without any qualms, knows her rights really well and will not take any s**t from anyone. But marriage is not about the kind of qualities each one possesses, but I guess its about how to match and understand these qualities. While we make many new relationships, it is definitely not going to be a very great experience, because there are going to be expectations, assumptions, presumptions etc which of course most of us hate, it is also going to be a lot of surprises, fun and unique aspects of relationships, which are bound to add to the experience and life ahead.

I feel the institution of marriage is amazing, though many of my friends would disagree. Many think it is a compromise, but honestly I think, when you think it is a compromise, you will not be able to sustain it for a long time as someday it is bound to take a toll on your relationship. Two different people coming together will surely have differences, but it is very important to know at the end of the day, what matters the most is the “Togetherness” that you guys are going to share throughout your lives, for better or for worse.

 
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Posted by on September 3, 2010 in couple, marriage, Relationships, Wedding

 

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