15 Sep

Individuals that we are and the unique identity that each one of has, we live with our own set of thoughts and principals in life. But we still fall in some or the other category of people! Let me throw some light when I say ‘category of people’…Music lovers, Art admirer, avid bloggers :P, sports & adventure enthusiasts etc…And some where or the other deep inside we are judges and critics as well……We judge people as if we are perfectionists, we criticize movies, views, technology, book under the pretext of reviewing or analyzing them. Of course we are educated enough and have the exposure, understanding and intelligence/brains to decide what’s good, bad or worse!

This is what we are in the web 2.0 era. But then there was a time when we had to abide by the societal norms, a set of right and wrong things, a certain parameter which defined good or evil, virtuous or iniquitous….A few instances…

  • till some 10 years ago, it was believed that kids who stood 1st to 3rd in the class were intelligent and would go on to have bright future
  • Only doctors, engineers, teachers were supposedly the best profession one could land up in
  • For a woman the best career option was being a teacher, as she could take care of the family and also contribute to the finance
  • Love marriage was not acceptable
  • talking about sex was a taboo and so was live-in-relationship
  • Married life can only be successful or blissful if you marry the person of your religion and caste

Well if I have to list down the things, they would go on and on. I have come across many people or instances where people who have not fallen into the above mentioned category have done really well in life…I know of few of my classmates, friends, seniors and juniors in school and colleges who always excelled in class and today are either married and are homemakers or have landed in sad jobs. A few years back I had this thing stuck in my mind, guys who smoke, do drugs or booze are ‘bad guys’, I shouldn’t be friends with them. But then when I shed that mindset and mingled with guys who indulge in all of it din’t make them any less worthy as human beings…Its just that at times we are thick and want to believe what we think is correct because we are conditioned to believe or think that way!

Another category of stereotypes is guys who are flirts, playboys…”I hate it when a guy calls a girl who has not given him her number” was my funda.  Many girls like me jump to this conclusion that a flirtatious guy can never be committed. True to a great extent! And I also have an instance to quote…A friend of mine got a call in such a way and the guy turned out to be a complete jack A**…..And I also have a friend who is married to a guy who apparently was a playboy and today he is the most loyal and dotting hubby a girl would want.

Well there are many such inhibitions that we need to shed. Many times I wonder why are there certain things we know are not logical, but yet to please may be our parents, people or the society follow it!


Posted by on September 15, 2009 in education, norms, people, religion, society, stereotype, virtue, web2.0


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6 responses to “sTereoTypeS…..

  1. Shanu

    September 15, 2009 at 4:16 pm

    i agree with most of ur points.. I have been stereotyping ppl all my life too..but lately i have realized ppl dont fall into 1 categry nemore..its more like a mishmash of categories now.

    That said..old habits die hard.i dont think i will b able to give up this one netime soon!

  2. spikeace

    September 17, 2009 at 8:14 am

    The “stereotyping” does have its advantages…
    I’ll take on the booze, drugs and smoking part to put my point across – Agreed that guys (and gals) who indulge in BDS (booze, drugs, smoke) may or may not be bad, but the mindset to ASSUME that such ppl would be bad is kind of justified. These people are good individuals, but keeping their company can result in something bad happening to the individual…
    he/she may pick up the BDS habit thinking its cool.
    if he/she attends a party where BDS is going on and there is a police raid, the clean# person’s name will be tarnished unnecessarily.
    The person indulgig in BDS may “spike” the drink of the clean person# and that may result in rape!
    A drunk may drive the car to drop a clean person# and may result in an accident.

    Thats why the stereotype mindset was created by society. Because many people forget a thing called “self-control”. Any thing indulged in excess is an abuse. Instead of explaining all this everytime, perhaps someone felt its better to stereotype and use it as a “cover-all”!

    # clean person = person not indulging in BDS. This term is not intended to mean that persons indulging in BDS are dirty.

  3. Valerine

    September 17, 2009 at 12:37 pm

    True Shanu is difficult to change our mindset on certain things….But then u never know what’s in store for u in the future 😛

  4. Valerine

    September 17, 2009 at 12:47 pm

    Spikie agree when u say that sane people also go insane in bad company that’s when psychologists came up with “effects of peer pressure”….
    And yes one’s image gets tarnished coz dis whole gamut of drugs and alcohol is beyond one’s imagination….But then I was talking about ppl who do it occasionally…Eg Social drinkers…of course smokers r smokers….not only that, I have friends who get sloshed over the weekends but then make sure they don’t drive and the hangover is over in the weekend itself….
    apart from that it was my belief that ppl who smokes/drinks are characterless and disgusting …Well I may b disgusting for them being a spoil sport……So its just about shedding a few thoughts that we believe & live with….
    Like I was made to believe that people who stay up late nites and are not morning people are lazy which is not true….They are no less enthusiasts …..Well loads of such things!

  5. Vee

    September 17, 2009 at 8:08 pm

    I still feel no matter what people do fall in some category…. U r bang on actually in most cases and I do acknowledge it.

  6. Valerine

    September 21, 2009 at 10:52 am

    hey Vee I am not ignoring the fact that people do fall in categories…But then they shudnt be tagged or labeled which defines them as individuals coz of certain habits or traits that they portray……


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