Individuals that we are and the unique identity that each one of has, we live with our own set of thoughts and principals in life. But we still fall in some or the other category of people! Let me throw some light when I say ‘category of people’…Music lovers, Art admirer, avid bloggers :P, sports & adventure enthusiasts etc…And some where or the other deep inside we are judges and critics as well……We judge people as if we are perfectionists, we criticize movies, views, technology, book under the pretext of reviewing or analyzing them. Of course we are educated enough and have the exposure, understanding and intelligence/brains to decide what’s good, bad or worse!
This is what we are in the web 2.0 era. But then there was a time when we had to abide by the societal norms, a set of right and wrong things, a certain parameter which defined good or evil, virtuous or iniquitous….A few instances…
- till some 10 years ago, it was believed that kids who stood 1st to 3rd in the class were intelligent and would go on to have bright future
- Only doctors, engineers, teachers were supposedly the best profession one could land up in
- For a woman the best career option was being a teacher, as she could take care of the family and also contribute to the finance
- Love marriage was not acceptable
- talking about sex was a taboo and so was live-in-relationship
- Married life can only be successful or blissful if you marry the person of your religion and caste
Well if I have to list down the things, they would go on and on. I have come across many people or instances where people who have not fallen into the above mentioned category have done really well in life…I know of few of my classmates, friends, seniors and juniors in school and colleges who always excelled in class and today are either married and are homemakers or have landed in sad jobs. A few years back I had this thing stuck in my mind, guys who smoke, do drugs or booze are ‘bad guys’, I shouldn’t be friends with them. But then when I shed that mindset and mingled with guys who indulge in all of it din’t make them any less worthy as human beings…Its just that at times we are thick and want to believe what we think is correct because we are conditioned to believe or think that way!
Another category of stereotypes is guys who are flirts, playboys…”I hate it when a guy calls a girl who has not given him her number” was my funda. Many girls like me jump to this conclusion that a flirtatious guy can never be committed. True to a great extent! And I also have an instance to quote…A friend of mine got a call in such a way and the guy turned out to be a complete jack A**…..And I also have a friend who is married to a guy who apparently was a playboy and today he is the most loyal and dotting hubby a girl would want.
Well there are many such inhibitions that we need to shed. Many times I wonder why are there certain things we know are not logical, but yet to please may be our parents, people or the society follow it!